I am Indonesian Chinese. I live in Indo
Last year I met a SG guy at a dating website. Actually it
was a coincidance because I wasn't intend to seek a guy
there. Just curious with that website...registered without
picture. After that, I didn't login to that website for a
long time....when I logged in..I got a message from a guy (he
didnt put his picture as well). I replied to that message
giving my email address for a further chat. I was glad to
have more new friend at that time. no feeling for him.
My first opinion was...this guy is very formal...very nerd...coz
his language is very formal. I felt like corresponding with a
business partner....LOL....I thought our friendship would last
longer...coz he was so boring. But he did constant effort to
make me attracted...and he suceeded after 4 months. There was a
chemistry between us although we didn't know each faces. Then
we exchange our pics...and I was surprised he is good
looking. His physical appearance meets my criteria about
man.
he goes to indo regularly and finally he came to my town. I was
very happy with our first dating but I felt lil bit
uncomfortable coz he kissed me too much. I didn't say myself
as a conservative lady but i need more time to make myself
comfortable with physical touching such as kissing, touching,
etc....because it was our first meeting
then, he came again 2 months later. It was getting worse
coz he opened my blouse and kissed my breast. Although I struggled,
he didn't care and keep insisted. I was disagree..I am very
uncomfortable with that. When he asked me whether I like it
or not...of course I answered no. I told him that I prefer not too
many physical touching coz for me love is respect, understanding,
trust, and support each other through the bad and good times.
Kissing and hugging are OKlah...but no more than that
He was angry to me after hearing my explanation. He said
how can i have such a logical definition for love ? for him
love is feeling...feeling to hug, to kiss, to touch.
Our relationship was getting cold. He didn't contact me at
all. He was totally changed...like a stranger for me. When I
tried to speak to him about this matter ( coz I thought we had to
discuss more for any other different point of view to get win win
solution)...he said he didn't want to talk about it anymore.
he left a problem unfinished
Then I went to Singapore for job hunting. I didn't tell
him about my job hunting at first...just told him that I would have
a long holiday in
Singapore.
Again...he did the same things to me when i was in SG..opened my
blouse to kiss my breast. Although I struggled...he didnt
care. Even it was getting worse...he tried to push my
vagina with his finger (I still wore pants)...and after that he
tried to open my pants but luckily I could stop him.
when he knew about my job hunting....he was disagree and told me
that I'd better to stay in indo. Then I was angry and said
"why everyone must always have the same thought with you?".
My sentence made him angry and again ....he left problem
unfinished
I was tired with his ego and didn't made any effort to make up
like before. And he didn't contact me as well....so 3 weeks
after that I decided to end our relationship although I still love
him. I sent him an email coz I didn't want to speak or meet
him. He replied 2 days later...only saying "thank you and gud
luck"
He never hold my hands if we were at public places in
Singapore. So we looked like a "regular" friends only.
He forgot my birthday and never come to my place in Singapore after
I have got roommate coz I think he know he couldn't do that
(kiss breast ,etc)
I used to spy his house. I found his car at the carkpark
and I saw the door were open. he had spare time but he didnt
want to meet me.
He changed a lot after I was disagree with him about sex
Is sex very important in a relationship, SG guy??????
maybe he isnt singaporean but a permanent resident of singapore or
a malaysian chinese perhaps.most singaporean guys would do the
blouse thing.most would date u go for dinner watch a movie..meet
yer folks etc etc .,,,just like any decent guy.to see if he is a
singaporean....ask to see his identity card which should be pink in
colour as only sporeans are issued that pink identity card
according to law.
perhaps he just watched too much violent anime films and wants
to imitate them with u which is kinda sick.
he never held yer hands in public???and he held u in his arms
like it was the last days on the planet??dump him n get a better
guy.looks like its lust n not love...in which case u might as well
get a rubber dummy or a robot for a future husband.
just dump him.....u have like 5 million more men in singapore
some are nice..some are monsters from hell..some are robots
too....many variety...just like fish in d ocean.
